Okay, they didn’t say that exactly, but they said its none of your fucking business.

Jezebel is something of a guilty pleasure of mine. To be honest I didn’t even realize it was decidedly feminist until a female friend commented that she “loves that I read Jezebel” and I put two and two together. While I can be quite a misogynist, I love women in all the right ways too, and generally really like this blog.  I read a really disturbing Valentine’s Day piece though: “I Don’t Care If You Don’t Want To Fuck Me“. What I immediately offended that this author had no interest in being the object of my desire? Yes, but there’s more.

In this piece, the author is retailing against a comment that fat people could be fit if they wanted to.  That’s obviously a fact. She goes on to address somethings about fat people, and why its none of your fucking business. Some of it is true, some of it was off base. Most of the stuff on her list that she argues against, she’s right about…those aren’t real things though. She says people complain that fat people will make their kids fat, or that they make other people fat, or that they’re taking something away from skinny people. I assume she made up these things just to have a list. I’ve heard a lot of people complain about fat people, but I’ve never heard those. She also mentions that its their choice to be fat…which I actually agree with. I have plenty of thick friends, and I don’t care. If they’re happy, I’m happy. If they’re struggling to find clothes their comfortable in, or won’t go to the beach without a t shirt on, they’re not happy, but we’ll table that for now.  She also mentions that obesity doesn’t raise our national healthcare costs, which is COMPLETE bullshit. I’d like to see her try to tell Michelle Obama that her main initiative over both her husbands terms is based on a misconception about fat people. None of that really bothered me though. I mean, of course it did, but that’s not why I started this piece. I have to assume the author is fat, and she wants to support fat people, and that’s fine. Frankly I don’t think everyone should be skinny, and I think there is something wrong with body type we idealize. I think its wrong to make every girl think she can be a size 2. You can’t. I’ll never have a 28 inch waste. I think its just as wrong to tell people being fat is healthy though. There’s got to be a happy medium, a realistic, attainable ideal. How could I make the author come around though?I wanted to color it in a different light. How could I explain in a way she might understand. I thought of smoking, but she might smoke and identify too strongly with it. I wanted to find something to really resonate with that specific audience. Then I did.

You know how people look at strippers and porn stars? How they say “they really don’t want that life”. They say these poor girls got sucked into it because along the way someone (society, family, friends, etc) had let them down? That’s how I feel about fat people. Most strippers and porn start say they’re loving live until they get older and really have to deal the consequences. I think the same is true about fat people. You can say you’re fine and its your choice. That you’re healthy and its none of my business. You’re right. Its not. There’s no question though that the other road is better. That you could have, and still can, take that road. That one day you’ll regret that because someone in life let you astray, you didn’t. Its your life though. I’d go crazy if we didn’t have any more strippers or porn stars…but I’d never want my child to be one.

So yeah, that’s how I feel about that.